Written by: Galit Lazar, Confidence and Prosperity Coach
What is the secret to happiness and abundance? Why do some people have more and others struggle?
Well the answer is that your life starts in one place and that is with one person… you!
The first step for transformation starts with how we feel about ourselves, the way we perceive ourselves from the inside and out. Sounds easy right? Well it is not. There is no magic wound that is going to make it all well in a second, it takes work, ambition, perseverance and a coach. Yes, you heard it, and a coach. A coach has the ability to help you gain awareness of your subconscious mind, and help you overcome the obstacles that prevent you from reaching your dream. But I am not here to talk to you only about that. I am here to show you the 3 most important steps to gaining confidence easily and effortlessly. These three steps are: awareness, acceptance and action.
Many of us don’t always realize how we feel about ourselves. We think we are confident. We look confident on the outside, but if we look in the mirror everyday and try to find everything that is wrong with us than we are not in love with ourselves. If we let other people put us down, feel like we are not good enough in certain things, then we are not confident. So what do we do about it.
The first step is to gain awareness. Gaining awareness is self-power. When you gain awareness, you are ready to begin your transformation. Being aware and awaken that you have this issue, that you feel this way is the most important process in this journey to loving who you are. Ask yourself:
- How do I feel about myself today?
- Why do I feel this way?
- How do I want to feel today and every day?
When you are ready, admit to yourself that you feel this way and that it is alright because now you are taking the first step to changing this attitude. Begin knowing yourself from the inside out. During this transformation, you will explore new parts of your being you never knew you had, talents and abilities that have been hidden inside of you for so many years, because probably you tried pleasing others and using skills and abilities that were not yours, but other peoples’ expectations of you.
So how do we begin? Where do we begin? Begin by your personality. Personally, I started by concentrating on the parts I loved about myself first, then I went gradually to the parts I felt I was ready to accept about myself and so on.
For example, I started by loving my creativity. I am a very creative person full of wonderful ideas and this was the easiest part for me to accept, so I began with this personality trait. When you start with small steps like this, your mind can accept it more easily than if you try to attempt to change too many things quickly. Self-care is a process that takes time, patience and lots of self-nourishment. It is like a plant, if you water it every day, it will grow and become very beautiful. You start by cleaning out the dirty roots and the stem starts to grow and become taller. The bulb begins to form and gradually each petal blooms. The same goes in the area of confidence. It is important to give yourself the time you need to fully accept a part of yourself. Only when you notice that you are fully comfortable with it, then you can move to the next step.
The next step is to work on your physical self which is the most difficult one especially for women. But don’t worry because you are able to overcome it. Again start concentrating on the parts you already love about yourself and start to notice them, for example, your eyes, your eyebrows, anything that you know that you will not be able to contradict. Don’t tell me you cannot find anything to love about yourself, we all have at least one part we love about ourselves. Gradually pick one part of yourself that you feel ready to start loving and accepting it. Notice how you feel about that part.
- What kind of feelings come up?
- How can you transform these feelings into positive ones?
- How do you feel about this part of your body when you see other people?
- Why you don’t like it? What is really bothering you about this person?
The last step is after you have accepted these parts of yourself, you can move on and make a change. It is very easy to change once that you have accepted yourself as you are. You now have the power to work on your strengths and improve parts of yourself. Again, remember to do it gradually, one step at a time. Some parts will be more difficult to change immediately depending on the degree of your acceptance.
When you put the intention to take care of you, life follows you. Bloom in self-Confidence, flourish in Self-love.
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