Recently I watched the Dr. Phil show and it inspired me to write this blog today. As mothers we have this belief that we have to put our kids first and we tend to get to a point where we completely abandon our well-being. A daughter spoke to Dr. Phil about her concern about the fact that her mother has neglected to take care of her physical self and her health since she was born. The daughter was worried that her mother is going to die or get very sick and that she will lose her. This woman felt guilty that she has taken so much out of her mother’s time and is the cause of her mother’s situation.
Do you know what is the best gift you can give your kids? Showing them that you matter, that you take care of yourself physically and emotionally. When you do it not only do you feel better, but you are sending a very important message to your kids about self love and the importance of self-care.
If you are a mother in a similar situation ask yourself the following questions:
How do you want your kids to feel?
What values do you want to transmit to your kids?
Who is their role model?
What kind of example do you want to set for your kids?
As parents and individuals we constantly make choices. By reading this article please see it as a wake up call to be aware of the messages your behavior may be perceived by your children. We are their heroes, their idols and they constantly observe, hear and feel even when we think they are not. What do we really want our children to learn from us about life?
Life starts in one place…you!
Galit.