This has inspired me to write this blog post. In this blog post you will find the untold truth about it as well as how to overcome it.
Are you a perfectionist?
Do you constantly feel “not good enough”, like a fraud?
Do you exhaust yourself to do something perfect all the time?
This blog post gives you a new fresh insight on how to learn to be softer with
yourself.
Did you know that Portia di Rossi,Maryl Streep,Jane Fonda and many other celebrities are perfectionists?
As perfectionists we are tough on ourselves as well as on others and our relationships with ourselves and others can sometimes become a battle. Often times it is because we have high expectations for ourselves and towards others to do things the right way. We often put high pressure on ourselves to do everything right. To be the perfect employee, the perfect business owner, perfect marketer, the perfect spouse, the perfect parent and the perfect volunteer .
Often times we put so much pressure on ourselves which can hinder our relationships with work colleagues as well as family members. Not everybody is perfect. As a perfectionist, in your mind we know it, but you don’t know how to accept non-perfection.
As a perfectionist myself, I know how difficult it is to change these old habits and I have learned how to overcome it.
Accepting non perfection for you is frightening, but it doesn’t have to be. It is not easy to change, but it is possible.
You can be successful and stress free with a few effective easy to use tools and techniques.
Imagine that finally you can live a freeier life, free of these chains that are holding you in one place and preventing you to be who you really want to be. You don’t have to suffer no more.
Here are some of the tools you can use to learn how to be softer with yourself:
-Write a list of everything that you have accomplished so far and note the good experiences.
-Note 3 things you are happy with. Do it everyday for at least 30 days. By writing it down you internalize the good characteristics and experiences into your brain and then you have moved forward one step towards shifting your perspective into a more positive one.
–Use self-talk with that part of yourself. This voice comes from your bruised self. How do you do this? Make a table with 2 columns. Write “not good enough” in the first colomn and write “good enough” in the second column. Brainstorm by writing all the “not good enough” in the first column everything that comes into your mind and do the same for the second column. If you have trouble finding the good enough in the second column, ask people you know that are supportive of you to help you out. Look for some successes you have accomplished, think about your skills and strengths. By doing this you realease the feeling of not good enough.
-Go back to this table and find the gift in the not good enough. Write the benefit in the not good enough. Once you do it you will find the positive part in your flows and see yourself in a more positive light. You can also realize all is an illusion and not true. All of this is coming from your Black Octopus (Your Ego).
-Hire a coach. A coach can help you be softer on yourself as well as transform your whole life quickly and effectively. I have worked with a coach myself and it gave me courage to take steps that otherwise I wouldn’t take.
The most successful people are the ones who are doing things imperfect because they view mistakes as opportunities rather than simply mistakes. Strive for excellence instead of perfection and give yourself permission to make mistakes.
For many years I was afraid to make mistakes, but I overcame it when I noticed that my most imperfect work was the most successful one. After all it is all about your self-perception and you have control over it.
I would love to hear from you. Please leave a comment and tell me what have you taken away, maybe share your experience, inspire or perhaps encourage another reader.